Gloria Winters passed away the other day. Here is a link to her obit. Gloria had a long standing supporting role in the 1950’s TV show, Sky King. Here is a nice image of Gloria in her working outfit (from Airport Journals)
So? Well, I found this odd quote from Gloria at the end of her obit
“Being attractive is the most important thing there is.”
Hmmm … that is a very strong statement. The MOST important thing? More important than being honest? More than being caring?
Well, I am not sure that I agree with Gloria. But her statement is provocative. And there may be a kernel of truth in there somewhere. BTW, I think that it reflects an attitude that was much more common back in the early 1960’s in the US (especially among women) than now. Making attractiveness such a high priority presupposes the importance of connecting with other people. And I would agree that connecting is important in life. But in order to become more attractive as an activity, one has to reverse engineer what makes the connection work and fake that pose. To try to say and do the right thing in order to fit in. In the end, it is a rather weak position, isn’t it?
Just by coincidence I read this morning that one of the most common regrets that people express when they are dying is
1. I wish I’d had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me.
Ouch! And
3. I wish I’d had the courage to express my feelings.
Many people suppressed their feelings in order to keep peace with others. As a result, they settled for a mediocre existence and never became who they were truly capable of becoming.
Double Ouch!
The quotes are from the blog Inspiration and Chai. Here is the link. I sourced it from Paul Graham’s tweet. Something to think about. Especially the word “courage” (I think). On a day to day basis, we don’t often think of ourselves as having issues with courage. But …
Getting back to Gloria, perhaps we would do well to summon the courage to believe that we are attractive enough when we are just ourselves.