Archive for the ‘story telling’ Category

Drinking the Kool-aid Redux

Monday, February 25th, 2013

If you could choose, which would be more valuable to you? Your capacity to learn or your capacity to believe?

Of course we want both. Believing in something gives us strength, which in a turbulent life is badly needed. So we are constantly exhorted to “believe in ourselves” the way that Steve Jobs did. But as Fransisco Dao  writes, a craving for belief can blind us. Remember the great scene from the Wizard of Oz where the little dog pulls back the curtain and reveals the true identity of the “great and mighty Oz”?

I agree with Dao that the slide from open minded questioning and learning to closed minded adherence is a slippery one. Why? Pressures from the outside can overwhelm us.

After the horrendous events in Jonestown, Americans started calling this phenomenon “drinking the Kool-aid“.  The phrase resonates because there comes a moment when it is too late to wake up. Which, btw, takes me to politics. Rachel Maddow ran a show the other night about the events leading up to the US invasion of Iraq. Can you believe it! President Bush et al got the whole country to drink the kool-aid and invade Iraq. Oops.

But that is in the past, right? Well, consider the Italian elections. Who would have thought it possible that bunga bunga politics could make a comeback? And yet, as Paul Krugman writes, frustration with austerity policies imposed from Germany run deep. So where is the Kool-aid here? Well, some still cling to the belief that austerity is needed right now. Can you believe it?

A slippery slope indeed. Perhaps Descartes meant to say “I believe. Therefore I am.”

Who Has the Magic?

Tuesday, January 15th, 2013

Apple products have a magical quality. As Steve Jobs said “they just work”.  This simple assertion, however, sits on top of a much more complex phenomenon. Want to know more?

Ok. Here we go. Let me ask you this, “What does it mean when something “works”?” At its core, I think it means that an external thing (what we focus on) meets — or better yet exceeds — our internal expectations. Notice the duality. There are internal and external aspects to the formula. If either goes askew, we have a breakdown.The thing doesn’t work and we get the opposite of magic. Like a car that won’t start. Or a flat tire.

On the flip side, if we choose to live with low expectations, everything “works” — sort of and we get stagnation. This is a common attitude when people are overwhelmed by life’s difficulties. Whatever you want to call this, it is not “magic”. And even if we are not overwhelmed, but our expectations are fixed over time, we start thinking more and more about “efficiency” (incremental improvements). This seems to work, but it is magical only in terms of reverence for the past (when the magic happened). I think Jobs meant something different than that.

So what did Jobs mean? We get magic when our expectations are exceeded. When we are lifted out of what had seemed like a constrained environment. Like suddenly being able to fly out the window. What happened to gravity? Who cares!

What a wonderful image from the Peter Pan story via “wild world“! Steve Jobs made the audacious claim that he could produce similar magic by delivering incredible experiences from electronic devices.

This is indeed audacious. Setting aside the “how could he do that?!” question, think about the attitude. Jobs’ success in life was about giving magic to you. About helping YOU work. Technology for him was just a tool. Right. So, here is my big, big, big question. Can we do that too? Can we live great lives by making other people “work”? By delivering magic to them the way that Apple does to us?

Perhaps the hardest part (as usual) is to figure out where to get started. Jobs thought that you start with your internal processes. And he took an incredibly simple step to get his internal processes working along the right path. He made a commitment to discovering “wonder”. Notice I did not say that he already had found the “wonder”. Quite the opposite. He opened his mind to the possibility that he didn’t yet know how wonderful things could get. This created internal space for great new ideas.

You might ask, “why is that such a big deal?” Here is why. If you open your mind up this way your mind starts working differently. The mind starts seeing the world differently and producing different sorts of creative input for how to live. It becomes possible to commit to a search rather than routines. This sets the “this works” meter to the appropriate standard — things work when they produce wonder. Pretty cool, I think.

Now we can move to a more mechanical step. Looking at external stuff, we can ask ourselves”what makes thing work better?”  We call the result “great design”. Bits reporter Nick Belton writes that this implies a shift from thinking about “technology” (for example, what is inside a computer) to emotional experiences from using technology. According to Belton, we are starting to think this way about the design of digital tools. In other words, the tech world is following in Jobs’ footsteps.

This is exciting. Not so much because it means we will get better and better gadgets — though we will. It is fun because it opens up the possibility of understanding better how we can design our lives in communities. We can make relatinoships “work” in magical ways if we believe in and use the process.

Do you believe in that?

Enter the Demons!

Tuesday, September 25th, 2012

One of the funny things about story telling is that it is not really about the good guys. There have to be heroes, but the energy in the story comes from the demons. With no demons (as Shaw correctly points out in Man and Superman), virtue is boring. Lego gets this - check out how they promote their new video game based on the Lord of the Rings films - all bad guys.

So if you want to tell stories, think first what demons you interest you and why. We can go beyond that. If you want to create a life story for yourself, what demons hold you back?

Are You Creating Fiction or Fact?

Wednesday, September 19th, 2012

We are a fact bound society. We love the “truth”. Especially valued is scientific method to generate “truth”.  And let’s not even start on the idea of religion as “truth”.  Stripped to the essentials, we are addicted to certainty as the model to build comfort for decision. And so, we argue most of the time about “facts”. What is a fact and what is not.

Sorry, but this argument is relatively trivial. The truth is that fictions govern how we live. Fictions are what give us energy. Fictions that we want to live up to. To inhabit. To feel. Consider, for example, how much fun it is to go a movie or theatre or opera. Is it because these venues create facts? Quite the opposite. We love them and judge them on how effective the fictions are in drawing us in.

So do you create fictions? Are you proud of the life you build around your fictions? Do you fashion great stories from them? All good questions I think.

AMMYY is a Scam

Saturday, September 15th, 2012

I got the scam phone call yesterday and thought I would warn you all about it.

These guys are making cold calls around the world and they got hold of my number. A guy who called himself Sean Robertson gave me the hard sell that my computer was sending him warnings (as a certified microsoft technician) and all hell was about to break loose if I didn’t let him fix it. To make a long story short, Sean wanted me to run an exe file called ammyy so that he could show me my problem. (BTW NEVER go along with this). And he wanted me to pay for a software package to do a fix. I said I wanted confirmation of who he is. He gave me this telephone number +442032860665 to call He said that his employee number is ms140920. He said that I should call and give the number asking for confirmation of his name and then they would transfer the call back to him.

If you do a Google search for that number, you get a link to a “Ruben Tech Solution“. It is not a line to Microsoft at all.  Ok - the whole thing stinks and even if you have no tech background this should raise red flags. So just to wrap this all up in a neat package, I did an online chat with Microsoft Tech Support and they immediately said that this is a hoax.

You get the idea. My call was not unlike this one, though that guy handled it much better than me. And if you poke around, you will find a bunch of YouTube videos and web warnings about this scam. Here is another video about it. And a TV interview about it.

Bottom line. DON’T FALL FOR THIS. IT IS A SCAM. And if they try to scam you, spread the word. Report it (I did to Microsoft). Make life more difficult for these kinds of folks. It is the least that they deserve.

The Garden of Evening Mists

Sunday, September 2nd, 2012

Tan Twan Eng offers us a story about healing in a Japanese garden and Dominique Browning reviews the book for NYT. Fans of Japanese aesthetic will enjoy the pace of the story. Its drive to simplicity.

The key word here is regeneration. These days, when it is so easy to get depleted, regeneration tools are highly valuable. What do I mean by depletion? Check out what Dan Ariely has to say about ego depletion.

Her Enemies Don’t Having Orgasms

Friday, August 17th, 2012

Helen Gurley Brown was controversial. As editor of Cosmopolitan Magazine, she advanced the proposition in print that women should have more and better sex whether married or not. Some thought that this message is in poor taste. Others thought it debases women. But like it or not, it is a message that sold a huge number of magazines over many, many years.

The mere fact that Ms Brown was able to sell her message suggests that a significant number of women have thought that it is … engaging. If so, isn’t it better to have an open forum about something that happens than to pretend that it doesn’t? And should openly enjoying sex be part of the good life for all concerned? I would guess that even after fifty years of Cosmo, people still disagree on both questions.

But there is a funny side to this. If Ms Brown was a champion for more and better orgasms for women, did her enemies not have these?  That may be what Helen Gurley Brown actually thought.

After a long and successful career, Helen Gurley Brown passed away a few days ago.

Romney Taxes? For Big Ouch! Just Watch Maddow

Saturday, August 11th, 2012

As I posted before, the Obama crowd is trying to win the presidential election before labor day, a strategy employed successfully the last time by George W. Bush. To do that they are going after one of Mitt Romney’s “bonafides” - his business success. Was it based on good old fashioned American values? Hard work and fair dealing? Or was it due to … clever tax avoidance schemes?

Mr. Romney’s refusal to make his tax returns (other than one) public opened the door to this line of attack, and it is getting big play. If you want to see how, watch how Rachel Maddow uses it in her show. Whether you like or agree with her, you have to admit that she tells the story very well.

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Ephron’s Exit

Tuesday, July 10th, 2012

I had mixed feelings reading about Nora Ephron’s farewell party. On the one hand, it felt uncomfortably like the farewell party to an era. The NYT writes that she was

… the writer and filmmaker … who made hits like “Sleepless in Seattle” and “When Harry Met Sally.”

Well, these were hits quite some time ago.

On the other hand, I have the sense that the values that Nora championed have won out — especially her sense of humor. We have incorporated her stories into our own. So this comment seems apt

“She was proud of her work, and she should be.”

I like the sound of that.

Blatant Self Promo - Tomorrow its Back to the Sixties Again!

Monday, July 2nd, 2012

On Sunday I started a short thread of posts about some cultural baggage we still carry around from the 1960’s. The first post was about a new storyline that appeared in the sixties starting from the sensation of loss. But where does the story go from there?

Stay tuned! Tomorrow I reveal all. Errr … well as much as I can anway.